SURVIVE TO THRIVE GLOBAL INC.

 

 

MISSION STATEMENT

 

Survive to Thrive Global Inc. is dedicated to exposing the hidden culture of domestic violence and abuse and educating the public about the numerous policies that impact victims of domestic violence. Many archaic policies prevent victims of abuse from seeking help and obtaining safety and security to live freely, without the violent and coercive influences of an intimate partner. We seek to positively influence and enhance the public’s understanding of domestic violence in order to change this insidious culture – a culture where even strong, resourceful men and women find themselves in situations they never dreamed would be a part of their lives. Survive to Thrive Global seeks to a give a voice to victims of domestic abuse, and to educate the public about the factors that drive this harmful culture in order to effect positive change.

 

FOUNDER PERSONAL STATEMENT

 

Most people recognize me from the hit TV show on VH1, Love & Hip Hop New York. They followed the trials and tribulations on the big screen for an entire season, but what most people don’t know realize was where my relationship ended and the cameras were turned off. I ended up in another relationship shortly after with a younger man, 13 years my junior. Everything was beautiful at first, he was very handsome and charming; I didn’t realize the quick progression of abuse that was to follow, as I had never been through anything even close to what I was about to experience.

 

Looking back on everything now, I recognize and have become more educated on what domestic violence is. I thought it was just physical abuse, but boy was I wrong. It started out with the emotional abuse, the silent treatment with me always questioning what did I do wrong to this person? Trying to figure out, was it something I said to make him mad to be ignored for no reason? I was constantly second-guessing myself. Next came the verbal abuse getting called “bitches,” “horse” and much worse that a lady should never repeat. Other feelings became a regular occurrence, I will never forget the first time he really went off on me we were driving in my car to his cousin’s house. I was so in shock I started crying when we arrived and I told him I’m not taking this anymore that I’m leaving him, ofcourse he apologized, saying how sorry he was and promised he would never do it again. By this point I had already developed feelings for him, we had a very active and passionate sex life and I can’t lie I did enjoy the companionship after being out of my former relationship of two years.

 

He was nice for a while, after the first blowout I even agreed to let him move his parole to my home which was a major mistake looking back. Once he felt comfortable in my home he started pushing me, shoving me, smacking me, pulling my hair and then later on that escalated into punching, spitting in my face in public, throwing me into bathtubs and radiators and almost ultimately beating me to death. He even robbed me for over $10,000 worth of my jewelry, giving it to another woman. All of this is to say he had violated and humiliated me in every way you can imagine humanly possible. I lived in constant fear as I was threatened by his female friends and relatives that if I called the police or his parole officer they would come jump me, or worse cut my face. I make a living on television and modeling so this is definitely something I did not want.

 

He got a thrill out of terrorizing me, he would take my car for days at a time without my permission and disappear, going to other women’s houses, as I later found out. I was also forced to have sex when I did not feel like it and he would threaten to expose the private photos I had sent him in the beginning of our relationship on social media. I lost tons of weight, was constantly nervous, and I even started smoking cigarettes which I hate. I was in a constant state of paranoia and fear, the verbal abuse was wearing me out every day I was told I was ugly, fat, old, nobody wanted me, I was white trash, etc.

 

He knew I had few friends and no family here in New York, and that pleased him even more to know I really had no one to help me. It came to the point of me trying to move out of my own home of 13 years to get away from him, he was trying to completely take over everything that I worked hard for because he has never had anything on his own. He had been in and out of prison his entire life and there was a part of me that felt I could help him or save him… but boy was I wrong. It seems the nicer I tried to be to him, the more he resented and hated me. I ended up in the emergency room several times with cracked ribs, black eyes, a dislocated jaw and I have permanent hearing damage in my left ear where he punched a hole in my eardrum that took 2 months to close up.

 

My friends knew what was going on and they hated him but he would also cursed them out threaten to beat them up and harass them. EVERYONE was afraid of him. I would pray everyday for God to remove him from my life and when I say miracles do happen, trust me, I am a living testimony. He was foolish enough to commit home invasion and robbery. He got himself into a lot of trouble, ended up back in jail and the hospital… that was my time to change my locks and get his stuff out of my house I dropped his belongings off at his relatives I felt so relieved to finally have this devil out of my life and home. Of Course he called and tried to come back, but I had already started regaining my strength just in those few days of him being away I told him no and if he comes near me I will have him arrested he was already shacked up with another woman that he had been sleeping with the entire time behind my back. She had called me on the phone and was bragging that he wants to be with her. I thank her from the bottom of my heart for saving my life; a month later he went and attacked another woman, the same woman that he gave my jewelry to in Coney Island, Brooklyn. They were fighting over what he had stolen from me, he was kicking her door and she called the police, it was this time, that they finally violated his parole. Although this should have done before, but thankfully he has been in jail since last year and I feel so relieved and so happy that I have been getting my life back together one day at a time. Mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally and financially.

 

Having the platform that I do from being on reality television and writing for a major magazine and other endeavors it would have been shameful for me not to come forth and tell my story. It wasn’t until I did go public that I learned how many men and women worldwide are suffering from domestic violence as we speak this epidemic has no regard for race, social status, age, sexual orientation or gender. At first I thought I would be shunned by the entertainment community that no one would want to work with me, that I was damaged goods or people would look at me as a liability to whatever project that I would work on, but oh quite the contrary, I have been embraced by people from all walks of life whom have thanked me for sharing my story and having the courage and strength to get out and stay out of what I encountered.

 

I have received messages from people everywhere asking for help advice or resources because they are still in bondage and suffering in what seems to be a lot of dead-end situations, especially people with children and no financial resources to leave. I started Survive To Thrive Global out of the heartbreak that not only I endured, but because I feel every day for those who are still suffering and the children who have to witness this who may also grow up to imitate exactly what they have seen. I stress the word “Global” because it wasn’t until I came forward with my story that people from as far as China and Australia were writing me with their traumatic experiences. My goal is to help educate and provide as many resources as I possibly can to those who are still suffering from Domestic Violence, I may not be able to save everyone, but even if it is one life then it makes all the difference to me/ I was one of the lucky ones, I got away but every single day people are dying from what is supposed to be “love.” With Survive To Thrive Global, I want to show the world that this can happen to anyone who would have ever thought at the height of my career being a reality TV star that all of this was going on behind the scenes? I am a survivor and I am a driver, going through what I experienced made me appreciate my life so much more things that I took for granted that I don’t now.

SURVIVE TO THRIVE GLOBAL INC.

 

 

MISSION STATEMENT

 

Survive to Thrive Global Inc. is dedicated to exposing the hidden culture of domestic violence and abuse and educating the public about the numerous policies that impact victims of domestic violence. Many archaic policies prevent victims of abuse from seeking help and obtaining safety and security to live freely, without the violent and coercive influences of an intimate partner. We seek to positively influence and enhance the public’s understanding of domestic violence in order to change this insidious culture – a culture where even strong, resourceful men and women find themselves in situations they never dreamed would be a part of their lives. Survive to Thrive Global seeks to a give a voice to victims of domestic abuse, and to educate the public about the factors that drive this harmful culture in order to effect positive change.

 

FOUNDER PERSONAL STATEMENT

 

Most people recognize me from the hit TV show on VH1, Love & Hip Hop New York. They followed the trials and tribulations on the big screen for an entire season, but what most people don’t know realize was where my relationship ended and the cameras were turned off. I ended up in another relationship shortly after with a younger man, 13 years my junior. Everything was beautiful at first, he was very handsome and charming; I didn’t realize the quick progression of abuse that was to follow, as I had never been through anything even close to what I was about to experience.

 

Looking back on everything now, I recognize and have become more educated on what domestic violence is. I thought it was just physical abuse, but boy was I wrong. It started out with the emotional abuse, the silent treatment with me always questioning what did I do wrong to this person? Trying to figure out, was it something I said to make him mad to be ignored for no reason? I was constantly second-guessing myself. Next came the verbal abuse getting called “bitches,” “horse” and much worse that a lady should never repeat. Other feelings became a regular occurrence, I will never forget the first time he really went off on me we were driving in my car to his cousin’s house. I was so in shock I started crying when we arrived and I told him I’m not taking this anymore that I’m leaving him, ofcourse he apologized, saying how sorry he was and promised he would never do it again. By this point I had already developed feelings for him, we had a very active and passionate sex life and I can’t lie I did enjoy the companionship after being out of my former relationship of two years.

 

He was nice for a while, after the first blowout I even agreed to let him move his parole to my home which was a major mistake looking back. Once he felt comfortable in my home he started pushing me, shoving me, smacking me, pulling my hair and then later on that escalated into punching, spitting in my face in public, throwing me into bathtubs and radiators and almost ultimately beating me to death. He even robbed me for over $10,000 worth of my jewelry, giving it to another woman. All of this is to say he had violated and humiliated me in every way you can imagine humanly possible. I lived in constant fear as I was threatened by his female friends and relatives that if I called the police or his parole officer they would come jump me, or worse cut my face. I make a living on television and modeling so this is definitely something I did not want.

 

He got a thrill out of terrorizing me, he would take my car for days at a time without my permission and disappear, going to other women’s houses, as I later found out. I was also forced to have sex when I did not feel like it and he would threaten to expose the private photos I had sent him in the beginning of our relationship on social media. I lost tons of weight, was constantly nervous, and I even started smoking cigarettes which I hate. I was in a constant state of paranoia and fear, the verbal abuse was wearing me out every day I was told I was ugly, fat, old, nobody wanted me, I was white trash, etc.

 

He knew I had few friends and no family here in New York, and that pleased him even more to know I really had no one to help me. It came to the point of me trying to move out of my own home of 13 years to get away from him, he was trying to completely take over everything that I worked hard for because he has never had anything on his own. He had been in and out of prison his entire life and there was a part of me that felt I could help him or save him… but boy was I wrong. It seems the nicer I tried to be to him, the more he resented and hated me. I ended up in the emergency room several times with cracked ribs, black eyes, a dislocated jaw and I have permanent hearing damage in my left ear where he punched a hole in my eardrum that took 2 months to close up.

 

My friends knew what was going on and they hated him but he would also cursed them out threaten to beat them up and harass them. EVERYONE was afraid of him. I would pray everyday for God to remove him from my life and when I say miracles do happen, trust me, I am a living testimony. He was foolish enough to commit home invasion and robbery. He got himself into a lot of trouble, ended up back in jail and the hospital… that was my time to change my locks and get his stuff out of my house I dropped his belongings off at his relatives I felt so relieved to finally have this devil out of my life and home. Of Course he called and tried to come back, but I had already started regaining my strength just in those few days of him being away I told him no and if he comes near me I will have him arrested he was already shacked up with another woman that he had been sleeping with the entire time behind my back. She had called me on the phone and was bragging that he wants to be with her. I thank her from the bottom of my heart for saving my life; a month later he went and attacked another woman, the same woman that he gave my jewelry to in Coney Island, Brooklyn. They were fighting over what he had stolen from me, he was kicking her door and she called the police, it was this time, that they finally violated his parole. Although this should have done before, but thankfully he has been in jail since last year and I feel so relieved and so happy that I have been getting my life back together one day at a time. Mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally and financially.

 

Having the platform that I do from being on reality television and writing for a major magazine and other endeavors it would have been shameful for me not to come forth and tell my story. It wasn’t until I did go public that I learned how many men and women worldwide are suffering from domestic violence as we speak this epidemic has no regard for race, social status, age, sexual orientation or gender. At first I thought I would be shunned by the entertainment community that no one would want to work with me, that I was damaged goods or people would look at me as a liability to whatever project that I would work on, but oh quite the contrary, I have been embraced by people from all walks of life whom have thanked me for sharing my story and having the courage and strength to get out and stay out of what I encountered.

 

I have received messages from people everywhere asking for help advice or resources because they are still in bondage and suffering in what seems to be a lot of dead-end situations, especially people with children and no financial resources to leave. I started Survive To Thrive Global out of the heartbreak that not only I endured, but because I feel every day for those who are still suffering and the children who have to witness this who may also grow up to imitate exactly what they have seen. I stress the word “Global” because it wasn’t until I came forward with my story that people from as far as China and Australia were writing me with their traumatic experiences. My goal is to help educate and provide as many resources as I possibly can to those who are still suffering from Domestic Violence, I may not be able to save everyone, but even if it is one life then it makes all the difference to me/ I was one of the lucky ones, I got away but every single day people are dying from what is supposed to be “love.” With Survive To Thrive Global, I want to show the world that this can happen to anyone who would have ever thought at the height of my career being a reality TV star that all of this was going on behind the scenes? I am a survivor and I am a driver, going through what I experienced made me appreciate my life so much more things that I took for granted that I don’t now.